I just found a way to make it happen. I could have done it earlier – but I just wasn’t mentally ready. I was getting in my own way. At the end of the day, sometimes when you want to do things that you are dreaming about, you have to get out of your own way and you have to break the cycle.
My wife and I have been married for 15 years, and coming into the marriage we had baggage.
We had baggage from the things that we saw other married people do whether it was our parents or someone else. We decided when we were going to do life together, that we were going to break the cycle. Whether it was a cycle of verbal abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or whatever – we will break the cycle.
As a PT, I just broke the cycle of always having to feel like a servant to another group of providers/physicians. Now, I am just trying to help others break the cycle as well. Honestly, that is just a decision that YOU have to make.
My brother told me a story a few years back, that always resonated with me.
There are these two guys that are walking down the street and they hear this old man crying.
One of the guys looks over and says, “Why is that guy crying?”
The other guy said, “Because he has a nail stuck in his foot.”
And the other guy said, “Why won’t he get up?”
And the other guy said, “It doesn’t hurt him that bad enough yet.”
-Ain’t that the truth?
You only break the cycle when it hurts bad enough.
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I was talking to somebody about this because there was this thread in a Facebook PT networking group, about how non-clinical people that have MBAs are telling physicians and Physical Therapists how to treat patients…. and the therapists in the Facebook group were complaining about it.
But I am like, “Hey, at the end of the day, it obviously doesn’t hurt you bad enough.”
In 2004, when I had to deal with that same nonsense, it hurt me bad enough. It made me so angry that I wanted to change more than I wanted to stay the same.
So when somebody says to me, “I cannot open my own PT place.”
I say, “No, it just doesn’t hurt you bad enough.”
When somebody says to me, “I can’t run my own online fitness groups.”
I say, “Nope, it’s just not hurting you bad enough.”
“It’s hard for me to get along with my girlfriend.”
I say, “No, it’s just not hurting you bad enough.”
“It’s really difficult for me to put my kids first over my career.”
I say, “Nope, it just doesn’t hurt bad enough.” the consequences haven’t been there yet.
In order for me to make the changes that I had to make with my health, I had to be at rock bottom.
When you get to the point where the pain to stay the same is greater than the pain to change, it’s no problem – you’ll change. That’s how you break the cycle.